Today is my nine year anniversary.  I’ve been married so long now that its harder to remember being not married.  Sure, you may already be thinking that at thirty I shouldn’t have forgotten the first 21 years of my life, but those older memories are not as fresh as the ones I have with my bride.

Saving money by kissing your wife (or husband) is not as simple as you may think, you’ll have to do it a lot.  You’ll have to kiss your wife (or husband) and mean it.  You’ll have to tell them that you love them all of the time.  And mean it.  You see the best way to be a financial success is to do it together.  Making the choices together will help improve the quality of your relationship because it will require you to think about things and respect one another.  If you run into an area that you don’t agree… sit it out.  Talk about it.  Don’t force a decision.  There are very, very few times when you won’t be able to sit on decisions - but by working through all of the other things with patience and getting to know one another you’re going to be able to hash out the forced decisions much easier.

Kiss your spouse, tell your spouse that you trust them!  Trust is critical to financial well being because you’re a team working together to succeed.  If one of you gets dragged around kicking and screaming eventually it’ll just be a drag to do anything because of all of the screaming.  There is sometimes this myth that marriage is about communication.  It isn’t.  Communication is the result of a mindset change.  You have to change your mind about your partner: you must realize that the two of your are one now.  There aren’t two people there and so since the two of you are one you’ll have to communicate.  But don’t worry about the communication until you’ve both agreed that there is only one of you now due to the marriage.  You’re united like cement and the bond requires that you make unified decisions that are a result of communication.

I love my wife and she and I hope to save lots of money over the years from kissing one another and telling each other we love each other.   Because we made that choice together, we’re communicating together, and we’re saving together.  The golden years have started because they’re years that we’re together and dedicated to one another.  Yeah for unity!

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